The apex blog | Keep the walls down | jan almasy

Have you ever been hurt by someone? Whether by words, actions, or even thoughts that are given away through their eyes.

We have all been hurt by someone in the past. If I’m being completely honest, there have been plenty of times where my IMMEDIATE reaction after being struck in the chest by feelings of mistreatment is to shut all of my doors and build an internal emotional wall to keep any feeling out.

It’s easy, and it makes us feel safe. The walls that we throw up in order to keep people out get fortified over and over again every single time someone hurts us. They build them up…

Brick. By. Brick.

But what if I told you you’re not as safe as you think you are behind those walls? What if, rather than keeping something out, you were inadvertently keeping yourself trapped inside a fortress with something so dark you didn’t even notice it lurking in the shadows.


Fear of failure, fear of loss, fear of being hurt or left behind.

We trap ourselves in this world where fear becomes our governor. We let it make our choices for us and keep us trapped.

True strength lies in our ability to deconstruct those walls one brick at a time. So many of us are afraid to form relationships with other people or try something new because we’ve lived in fear for so long, we don’t even realize it’s there anymore.

We think feeling worthless, unloved, and unsuccessful is just how life is.

I’m here to remind you that all of those voices in your head telling you that are LIARS. Start taking down those walls, carefully, one brick at a time.

Until we learn to be RAW and HONEST with one another, we will all constantly live in fear. Get out from behind your walls and reach out to someone. Show them that it’s safe beyond the moat of their castle.

It may be a battlefield out there, but you’ll never have a chance to win if you never choose to fight.